I only need to lose 50 lbs to hit my goal number.īack to the jock who sent me that asinine note. I’ve come a long way since then and I still have a ways to go. It took me several years of intense focus on diet and physical activity to shed over 100 pounds. My therapist tells me that I learned to do this early in life and that eating was a way that I could fill an empty hole. I’ve always used food as a source for comfort. In fact, if I am brutally honest with myself, I’ve probably acted as someone’s gay “Duff” more than once. Let’s face it – we’re usually not on anyone’s “A” list. If you are an overweight gay guy, you know exactly what I mean. It was during this time of my life that I discovered how important “looks” were in the gay world. When I came out to my family during college, everyone was supportive. I thought about suicide more than once but didn’t have the guts to go through with it. By the time I hit high school, I was obese.
TATTED MUSCLE GAY MEN MOVIE
When I was in grade school, kids used to bully me with the name “Orca” – you know, from the movie Orca the Killer Whale.īack then, I was really overweight. Did he really send me such a cruel and ugly email? I tried to compose myself but then broke out into tears.Īll my life I have struggled with extra weight. Instead of bothering people who are trying to stay fit, you should spend more time losing the fat.”Īt first I thought what I was reading was a joke. The worst part is that the men you check out are way out of your league. Yeah, you show up at the gym but I’ve watched you. Just looking at you, I can tell it's not a priority. It’s just that I take care of my body and spend a lot of time focusing on my health. I’m not trying to judge you or anything, really.
There’s really no kind way to say this so I’ll just come right out with it. It’s because I have a hard time respecting you. It’s not because I have a boyfriend or anything like that. “I didn’t have the guts to tell you this at the gym but I won’t be going with you to see the Cubs. The next morning, I found the following sitting in my email inbox: We exchanged contact information and went back to our workouts. I was kind of stoked because it would be the first time we would be able to hang out, away from the gym. When I asked him if he wanted to go, he said “sure” but put out a caveat that he needed to check his schedule. I happened to be tunneled into a ticket source that was reliable. So this fall, when the cubs were on a winning streak, I decided to ask him if he wanted to catch a game. I’m talking about everything from crystal blue eyes to a super cool looking tatted arm sleeve. He’s one of those guys that people just stare at and watch when he walks by – he’s got that whole sexy thing going on.
So as time went on, we would bump into each other during workouts. In fact, we even liked the same players, including third basemen, Kris Bryant. He was originally from Michigan just like me and we both were fans of the Chicago Cubs. We chatted for a few minutes and I found out that we had some things in common. “How goes it man?” I said to him in an effort to make small talk. He was changing into his gym attire two lockers down and I figured why not. One day I got the balls to say hello to him in the locker room. He’s probably in his mid-thirties like me and bears a striking resemblance to an older version of Taylor Lautner. There’s this one guy who works out there that I am the first to admit I found attractive. It’s also happens to be popular among gay men. It’s one of those chain gyms that are common in Chicago. So anyway, I joined my gym around six months ago.